I was reading another blog, which is attached to our local newspaper, where a woman was writing about how men didn’t approach her and whisper sweet nothings into her ear at bars. Now I have no idea if the woman is attractive or not, her writing seemed like it would appeal to a “witty” female audience more so than a men but something captivated me about it either way. I assumed that this woman was sexy in my mind as I pondered why her and her friends had such a hard time finding the love or one night stands they were desperately looking for as they sat at their table cackling about designer clothes. Suddenly, after about two seconds, the answer came to me; the reason why men don’t hit on women anymore is because men are taught to be sissies since we were born. That’s right, in the name of equality and feminism, men have been taught that they need to be weak and sensitive instead of teaching women to be strong and independent.
Our schools are tools for spreading the sensitivity and equality so when a boy goes to school he’s filled with all of ways he’s supposed to treat women. When I was a student, I remember having to go through many classes where I learned that hurting some ones feelings was wrong, not to mention all of the lectures I got when I was kicked out of my classes. One of my favorite speeches that I got in school was in my high school gym class; an older woman and a man told us about how we shouldn’t judge girls by the way they look. “A lot of men look at a girl in a skirt and think ‘Ohhh she wants it.’” They explained to the class. The way the trainers should have handled the calls would be to tell the girls, “When you wear clothes like that, men think you’re a slut. If you don’t like men thinking that about you, wear something else.” Of course it was always the guys fault for noticing a girl’s skimpy outfits instead of the girl for wearing something so revealing.
One of my favorite things when I start a new job is the sexual harassment training that everyone gets before we can start working. The training always seems to be some computer game where a picture of a guy sitting at a desk surrounded by things that might offend someone, like a bikini calendar, for you to find and read about why those items are offensive. After that exercise, there’s usually some multiple choice questions about if something is appropriate in the workplace. Just like in school, the thing that’s missing is the part about how women can take responsibility for the way people look at them by not acting unprofessionally which doesn’t matter of course since all a girl has to do is take a little trip to hr and the offending male pig is instantly fired.
What women fail to realize is that there are no strong men out there because the consequences of being a strong man are usually too extreme and detrimental to their lifestyle. Everything that makes a man a man is frowned upon in society, work and schools creating a climate where men are forced to change what he is in order to survive. Society doesn’t recognize that men and women are different, that we do things differently and we’ve evolved for different roles; nor does it recognize that we learn in different ways. Men have always been aggressive and learned in physical ways while women tend to learn more through speaking.
In the end, as logic would dictate, men are trained not to talk to women in social and working situations which makes everyone suffer. Women complain that there aren’t any real men out there and men are unhappy since we’re trained to be something we’re not. Men need to remember that women aren’t as special as they think they are and women need to understand that men generally only talk to you because they want a little action. In reality men really don’t care about those little stories women have about themselves or their girlfriends, we just listen because we’ve been told that’s what women want. So the next time women out there complain, if you’re a guy you’ve already learned to disregard any of their points, take the time to look at why men are the way they are.
Check out the video below to see exactly why men are afraid to be what they are and be sure to notice how clueless the woman is but for some reason people take her opinion seriously.